Zamilování do terapeuta: Co to je a jak ho zvládnout v terapii

When you feel deeply connected to your therapist — like they understand you better than anyone else — it’s not necessarily love in the romantic sense. It’s a psychological phenomenon called transference, kdy klient přenáší pocity, které měl dříve k důležitým osobám (např. rodičům, partnerovi), na terapeuta. Also known as přenášení, it is a normal, even necessary, part of deep therapy. This isn’t weakness — it’s a sign you’re engaging honestly with your inner world. Many people experience this, especially when working through trauma, abandonment, or deep loneliness. The therapist doesn’t become your partner — they become a mirror, reflecting patterns you’ve carried for years.

What makes this tricky is that it often feels real. You might find yourself thinking about your therapist between sessions, hoping for their approval, or feeling hurt when they don’t respond the way you hoped. But here’s the truth: terapeutická aliance, vztah mezi klientem a terapeutem, který je základem úspěšné terapie is not about friendship or romance. It’s a professional container — safe, boundaried, and designed for healing. When you feel drawn to your therapist, it’s not a sign you’ve found the right person — it’s a sign you’ve found the right dynamic. This is where the real work begins: understanding why you project these feelings, and what old wounds they reveal.

Good therapists are trained to recognize transference and use it as a tool. They won’t reject you, and they won’t encourage it. Instead, they’ll gently help you explore: Who in your past did this person remind you of? What did you need from them that you never got? What are you afraid would happen if you admitted you’re feeling this way? This isn’t about stopping the feeling — it’s about understanding it. And when you do, something shifts. You stop seeing your therapist as a savior or a lost love — and start seeing them as a guide who helped you finally see yourself.

And yes — this happens more often than you think. Studies show that over 70% of clients experience some form of transference during long-term therapy. It’s not rare. It’s not weird. It’s human. The key isn’t to avoid it — it’s to name it, sit with it, and let it lead you deeper into your own story. When you stop hiding from these feelings, you stop letting them control you.

That’s why the next step isn’t to quit therapy — it’s to talk about it. If you’re feeling this way, say it. Not because you’re scared of being judged, but because you’re ready to heal. Your therapist isn’t there to fix you — they’re there to help you understand why you thought you needed fixing in the first place.

In the posts below, you’ll find real, practical insights into how transference shows up, how therapists handle it, and how you can turn this confusing emotion into a turning point in your healing. From boundary-setting techniques to how to recognize when it’s healthy versus when it’s blocking progress — everything here is grounded in what actually works in Czech therapy practice.